3 Top Tips To Finish The Week Strong 

3 Top Tips To Finish The Week Strong

Each week towards the end of the week most people tend to slow down and get ready for the weekend.

Energy levels seem to deplete and important tasks are neglected.

It is 100% normal to feel that as we are looking forward to unwinding and relaxing at the weekend.

What if I told you that it is possible to maintain your energy levels steady and firing on all cylinders till the end of the week?

So, you can enjoy your weekend knowing you did all you had to do during the week and not dread going back to work on Monday.

Does that sound familiar?

Here are my 3 top tips to finish the week strong.

  1. Focus on the task at hand. When we think of the all the nice things we are going to be doing with our friends and family at the weekend work can seem boring and we start feeling demotivated wishing it was Friday 5 PM now. We struggle to focus on what we are doing and start clock watching. By focusing on what you are doing only, you are more likely to finish it quicker, giving you more momentum to tackle more tasks during the day.
  2. Take enough breaks. For every 45/50 mins work some experts recommend we should take between 5-10 mins break to allow the brain to recover and regain its strength.
  3. Raise your energy levels. The more energy we have the more responsive we are to the tasks at hand. If you want to complete all your daily and weekly tasks simply raise your energy levels and it will enable you to find the resources and creativity to finish what you are doing.

Finishing our week strong is a matter thinking strategically and effectively and investing ourselves where it is needed the most.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post.

Till next time,

Jorge

How do you review the month gone?

How do you review the month gone?

Often it can be a “challenge” to measure how far we have gone because of the lack of clear and well-formed goals.

 

How do you review your month at the end of it?

 

To determine whether we achieved our goals or not all we have to do is to look at the results we have produced.

 

Asking yourself the following questions is a great to measure your results:

 

Are they exactly as we planned them out to be?

 

Are they even better?

 

Is there more to be done?

 

What didn’t you do?

 

What could have been done better?

 

What will you be doing differently next time?

 

Alternatively, do you feel satisfied and fulfilled by your results?

 

What are other people saying about your results?

 

What will you put in place for the following month, so your outcomes, goals and targets are met?

 

What habits will you start implementing in your life?

 

Who are you going to become to be in alignment with your goals?

 

You see how can “simple” it is and can be to review your goals at the end of the month, you can do the same at the end of the day, end of the week; and put new strategies in place
to ensure you meet your goals.

 

Till next time,

 

Jorge

Monday Strategy!

Monday Strategy!

Who said we all had to hate Mondays?

I consider myself very fortunate and blessed and I know you can feel that way too.

In the years, I trained to become a coach and trainer I learned from the best and the most amazing techniques too.

What stuck with me the most was goal setting or well-formed outcomes, as some people call them too.

As I started to apply this in my life I became very creative and ingenious with it, so I could become more efficient and truly leverage myself and my efforts.

So, this is what I came up with.

I started to set myself weekly outcomes/goals, for the whole of the week, those were the things I was going to accomplish, no matter what.

Then, I would chunk those goals down into daily outcomes/goals and ensured that they would be in alignment with the weekly goals and at the end of each day review and adjust as necessary.

The moment I started doing this I noticed how my results were improving and I was feeling good about myself and the results I was getting.

So, here is what I learned from this:

The main reason people dislike Mondays or going back to work is because they are lacking in strategies and planning.

People are failing to plan and planning to fail, which then take away their power and the way feel about themselves.

The opposite too is true when you plan your work and you work your plan you are empowering yourself and giving yourself the permission to succeed and achieve your goals.

If you’ve liked this post why not share it?

Till next time,

Jorge

10 easy to follow steps to have a great week!

I know not many people love that Monday feeling as much as I do, and what this means is that starting the week can be a challenge and a tad tiring for some.

Here are 10 easy to follow steps to have a great week:

  1. Allow yourself plenty of rest the night before, this normally mean getting up earlier on the Sunday, so you are tired early enough to ensure you have 6-8 hours sleep.
  2. Have happy and positive thoughts about Monday and your week. If you go to bed late thinking you will be tired the next morning, guest what? You will!
  3. Drink plenty of water throughout the day, sometimes dehydration can cause us to feel tired, stressed and demotivated, prevent this by having water by your side at all times.
  4. Have healthy meals and snacks to promote your body to work on full cylinders. 
  5. Surround yourself with positive people; positivity, just like negativity is contagious, choose your company carefully.
  6. Allow yourself to take breaks, taking breaks in between jobs or tasks is not only healthy for the body but for the mind too, it allows the mind to recover and perform better over long periods of time.
  7. Listen to something or someone inspiring, this too will motivate you during the week.
  8. Read a book on personal development, a few pages a day is a great way of feeding the mind with positive and inspiring information. 
  9. Schedule everything in your diary, to ensure it gets done. 
  10. Write down the 3 most important things to achieve each day. 

By following these steps (some would call them habits), you are setting the scene to have not only a great but fantastic week too!

Happy week,

Jorge 😎✌❤

3 Habits Confident People Have 

I remember growing up and having very little confidence and wishing I could be like so and so and one day pursue my dreams.

Though, not having much confidence was always a ghost I kept coming across, something I had to tackle head on.

So, here are 3 habits I found really helpful to becoming more confident.

3 habits confident people have:

  1. Confident people do not take themselves too seriously. By taking oneself too seriously we risk becoming disappointed and disenchanted with ourselves at some point when we make mistakes. Taking life and oneself too seriously can take away some our confidence and self-belief. 
  2. Confident people know that there is no failure only feedback. It is common for us to make mistakes, it is part and parcel of being human, at the same time something key to remember here is that there is no failure or bad experiences, simply feedback and experiences. And, 
  3. Confident people do not see themselves as victims. I remember in my journey to becoming more confident reading an article where it said that when you are a victim you are at the effect of someone! That was enough for me to stop feeling sorry for myself and get my act together towards becoming more confident. 

Perhaps, you are responsible lacking in confidence or self-esteem and by following and repeating these three habits you can start your own journey towards a more confident you.

Lastly, always bear in mind:

The best is yet to come!

Till next time,

Jorge 

The Importance Of KISSing

The Importance Of KISSing

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I got your attention, right?

Sadly I am not going to talk to you about kissing!

What I want to talk to you about is the importance of Keeping It Simple Stupid…

Why is it important to keep things simple and somehow basic?

Because the more complex and complicated the execution of anything, and I mean any project, job or task, the more likely it is to end up as an act of procrastination, or an end product/result you aren’t 100% satisfied with.

What do you know when your project/task is simple enough?

It is said that real genius is when you can explain anything to a 5 year old and they get it.

Also, you know your project is simple enough when you see yourself achieving it, it doesn’t overwhelm you and it makes you want to get on with it by taking immediate action.

A word of advice here is, do NOT let the idea that just because it is simple fool you, anything you want to get and achieve in your life requires immediate action, there is no time like the now.

If you are lacking confidence in yourself or an overall lack of direction as to how to tackle your goals, help is always available, shop around, ask others and find someone who can help you grow in confidence and become successful. Click here to visit my website.

The secret to any success is to have a simple and easy to follow system that will get you where you want to be.

Complex tasks and projects lead to disappointment and overwhelm.

Simple and easily structured tasks and projects lead to self-belief and certainty in oneself.

Remember, if you have a project you want to tackle and achieve successfully, simply give it a good KISS by keeping it simple stupid.

Till next time,

Jorge

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Things always move fast around here…

Watching a movie recently  (Hidden Figures) there was a quote that really stuck with me that was:

“Things always move fast around here.”

It hit home as it was a reminder of two things:

  1. That time is the only resource we can not ever get back, once it is gone, that’s it! And it is a great reminder that there is no point in dwelling in the past, doing so robs us from our now and future. And
  2. It stress the importance of acting straight away, that the here is no time like the now the now to take action because once that time is gone, well it’s gone.

How are you spending your time?

Are you time smart?

Till next time,

Jorge 

How do you know you are making the wrong decisions? 

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself why do you keep making the same mistakes and taking the wrong decisions time and time again? 

And where is the evidence that you are making the wrong decisions. 

It is quite simple, the evidence of those decisions are the results we get, or lack thereof. 

We fail to plan and therefore plan to fail and at the same time we get the results we don’t want.

Another common thing we tend to do (and this happened to me very recently, like Monday!), is that when we make decisions they are ill – formed and lacking in energy.

What do I mean by ill – formed decisions? 

They are fear or stress based. We are not consciously engaging with the task at hand and the results show it.

The same apply to our energy levels, overtime we have learned to grow out of touch with our energy levels and we don’t know when to take a break and restore our energy levels.

By doing this, we are allowing our brain and energy levels time to restore and be and be to function better without being depleted due to overuse and abuse.

If you want to make the right decisions and avoid mistakes, ensure you plan what you are intending to do and reenergise yourself allowing you to bring focus and clarity to your work.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post. Why not share it?

Till next time, 

Jorge 

5 Reiki Lessons I Apply In My Life Daily 

5 Reiki Lessons I Apply In My Life Daily 

If you aren’t familiar with Reiki, it is a Japanese healing art that has been around for the last 100 years or so, and it means Universal Energy.

One of the biggest lessons I have learned in my life so far is that whatever you do, whatever line of business you are in, the best way to fully embrace it is by making it part of your lifestyle (and who you are) AND turn into habits too.

Some examples are:

  • Yoga, it is much more than a group of asanas, Yoga is considered a lifestyle,
  • Fitness, if you are an athlete or PT it is very likely that you are constantly looking after your wellbeing, including what you eat and exercise on a regular basis,
  • Dentist, you wouldn’t run a successful dental practice with rotten teeth and bad breath,
  • Accountants, they tend to keep their accounts in really good conditions, as it is part of their routine, etc.

Here are the 5 Reiki lessons I apply in my life daily:

  • Just for today I will let go of anger,
  • Just for today I will let go of worry,
  • Today I will count my many blessings,
  • Today I will do my work honestly,
  • Today I will be kind to every living creature.

I have found this such an empowering way to live my life daily, just one day at the time.

If you are Reiki trained you might be saying: but that’s part of the Reiki teachings… Which is 100% true, though, it doesn’t mean it is easy to do, just because it is there to be taught, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is to be followed.

However, I know that by following these principles, as they are also know, I am in for a great day.

If something goes wrong, I use it as my mantra: just for today I will let go of anger AND I will let go of worry.

Rather than focusing on how things are working the way I’d like them to, I count my many blessings, I can see, I can hear, I speak, I can fell, I can smell and taste, I have roof over my head; AND by constantly focusing on my many blessings I know I am truly blessed to have what I have… they tend to outweigh what I don’t have.

Every day, I set out with the intention to do my work right and at the same time to do the right thing, in terms of my work, if a client comes to see me wanting something that is out of my expertise I will send them to someone who can help them rather than “keeping them all for myself”, I earn my living with integrity and I make it a huge part of my way of being and working.

Lastly, I wake up wishing the best to every human being and animal on the planet, I am ever so grateful for the people and things around me, to the point that in my book Growing Confident (and in my forthcoming book 23 Ways to Raise Your Energy Levels) in the acknowledgements session I thanked the plants and animals of the world because without them we would NOT be here, the plants keep us alive and the animals pollinise them so they continue to keep us alive.

Also, whether we want to admit it, we are all connected by wishing every human being the best we are wishing ourselves the best too.

By practising these simple principles, I have learned to love on people in ways I didn’t even know were possible, I have learned to love myself because I see and recognise the best in others and all of that is possible because I do it one day at the time.

Let me know which one of these principles is your favourite.

Till next time,

Jorge 😚✌

How to reboot your mindset?

We live in an era where pretty much everything is computerised and we talk in terms of softwares, hardwares, apps, etc. 
So, I thought I’d talk about the most important computer we will ever use and have, our mind!

I want to apologise in advance as I am not very tekky so I might the wrong terms. 

The main computer we were assigned at birth has been filled with downloads from all sources:

  • Parents,
  • Siblings,
  • Relatives,
  • Friends,
  • Neighbours,
  • School,
  • Teachers,
  • Culture,
  • Society,
  • Social media, etc.

Softwares and apps are constantly being downloaded, though, rarely they are updated, upgraded or discarded all together.

What are the side effects of operating using old programmes  (aka limiting beliefs)?

Among the many negative side effects here are some of the most common:

  1. Slow running of applications  (performance and overall speed),
  2. Prone to viruses and unwanted data,
  3. Carrying useless information,
  4. Frustration for the user, and
  5. A false sense of working properly. 

How can we optimise the running of our computer?

New softwares and apps are of importance, as well as a good antivirus.

These are best known as personal development, self-help and growth mindset.

Books, audios, seminars and 121 coaching are the necessary tools that will help our computer work and perform faster.

A constant and consistent upgrade and cleaning is of essence too.

We want to ensure we give our computer a time to recover too, so it can cool down, update apps and perform better all in all.

How good is your mind (computer) performing?

Does it need to be upgraded and updated?

Till next time,

Jorge 😚

Courage 

I came across this poem recently and I thought I’d share it with you.

Enjoy,

Jorge 😎
Courage 

Courage to stand out. 

Courage to be me. 

This courage I wish I had so drastically! 


Courage to laugh. 

The feeling to be free. 

Oh I wish I wish I had this courage inside of me. 


Courage to love. 

Courage to trust. 

To have this courage would be a plus. 


Courage to accept I have courage. 

This is proven to be; 

The hardest courage their could be.

by Christina E. Brown

How do you know if you are at the effect of things?

If you aren’t familiar with cause and effect this is how it goes.

When you are at cause in your life, you are calling the shots, making your own decisions, in control of your life and actions AND you get to create your life the way you want to.

On the other hand, when you are at the effect of something or someone,  you are giving power to something or someone, you are their ‘bitch’ (sorry, couldn’t resist!), you are ‘affected’ by everyone and everything AND you are seen or acting as a ‘victim’.

How do you know if you are at the effect of things in your life?

Here is a short list of things that would tell you you are at the effect of things :

  1. You are constantly complaining about things and people, 
  2. You feel ‘unlucky’,
  3. You wait for things to happen to you, 
  4. You are reactive,
  5. You feel hard done by,
  6. You always feel left out,
  7. You have negative and unhelpful thoughts,
  8. You hate your environment,
  9. You are always unhappy, and
  10. You haven’t achieved your goals.

How do you stop this?

The best and easiest way to stop being at the effect of everything and start being at cause in your life.

By flipping this ‘metaphorical’ coin you start to create the life of your dreams, chasing after your goals and being a real winner in your life.

What are the signs of being at cause in your life?

  1. You are happy in yourself, 
  2. You are optimistic and courageous,
  3. You use positive language, 
  4. You attract more people into your life, 
  5. You set empowering and realistic goals, 
  6. You do what you love,
  7. People come to you for advice, guidance and support, 
  8. You experience a real sense of wellbeing, 
  9. You more energised, and
  10. You experience a real sense of belonging. 

The list shown above is just but a summary of what is possible when we are at cause in our lives.

Being at cause is a state of being and knowing our worth.

Are you ready to be at cause in your life? 

Let’s hear what you got to say.

Till next time,

Jorge :)💋❤

3 easy steps to have a fantastic weekend!

Who doesn’t like having an amazing weekend?

The average person (according to my observations!) spends most of their weekend time, which I believe is precious to all of us, running around and recovering from the week gone.

So, how can we ensure we make the most of it, instead?

Those close to me constantly congratulate me for my levels of efficiency and being able to get everything done AND at the same time ensure I keep a balanced life.

How do I do it?

I use these 3 simple steps to ensure all my weekends are fantastic:

  1. I ALWAYS plan to do something fun. It doesn’t matter how long or challenging my week has been I will schedule something that will bring joy and laughter to me at the weekends. It could be going to the movies, going shopping or a nice meal out. I reward myself for the week gone.
  2. I set outcomes or goals for my weekends. This could be relationship or personal or even spiritual. I always ensure that there is something to be achieved at the weekend, something to look forward to. It inspires me to get more done at the weekends. Remember: time is a very precious resource, so why not use it wisely even at the weekends. And,
  3. I set aside some ‘me’ time. Selfish right? No, it isn’t, it is normal and healthy to want to have some you time, to do whatever you want or just to do nothing or reflect on the week one.

I have been doing this for years and I make the most of my weekends and I start my weeks empowered and energised. 

Give them a go this weekend and let me know how you get on.

Till next time,

Jorge 😘❤💋💥

Do I matter?

Good question right? 

Do I matter? Do you matter? Do we matter?

For years this question troubled and intrigued…

Do I matter? 

What I do matters?

Honestly I struggled to answer it because I couldn’t see any evidence of it (or that I thought!).

I started to notice and realise that what I did matter, though I would think people were being polite and kind to me.

It wasn’t til November last year when I truly learned that what I do matters!

I visited Atlanta, Georgia for a personal development training, I didn’t see the big deal in attending, I did it because u could and I was interested in it.

So, I got there. The truth is people knew about me going to visit and they forgot. 

The second I arrived, they were looking at me wondering who I was.

I introduced myself as Jorge from England and originally from Panama. Told them about my journey and who I was and did. 

The day was great. We learned so much and people were so kind and beautiful with me.

At the end, a lady stood up and thanked me for my bravery and honouring them with my presence this is what she said:

Thank you for coming and showing us how small we are playing.

You have travelled thousands of miles to invest on yourself and showing is what is possible. 

We make excuses about time and money and you have proven that those are just stories we make up to stop ourselves. 

I was speechless. I couldn’t believe what an impact I had on that community. 

However, it showed that everything matters, it doesn’t matter how small an action is it will ALWAYS matter because people are watching and being impacted by it. 

Do I matter? 

Does what I do matter?

Absolutely, 100%.

Guess what?

It also applies to you. 

You do matter, what you do matter. 

You needn’t hear from others to know that what you do matters, just know it that what you do matter. Period. 

You are important therefore what you do matters. 

What are you doing?

Recently watching a movie (Hidden Figures), I came across the most incredible quote in the form of a question  (2 actually):

What are you doing?

Taking a break?

This was said when a character was supposed to take an immediate action and instead was sat looking at everyone as if waiting for someone to either tell her what to do or do it for her…

At that moment her friend look at her and said:

What are you doing? Taking a break?

I saw the relevancy to those questions into my life and the lives of many people.

What are we doing? Taking a break?

There are dreams to be achieved. There are projects to get started and sometimes we find ourselves staring into space waiting for something or someone to appear and give us orders.

Some people are fortunate, “lucky” they have someone or people to ask that question: What are you doing?

Is there something that needs doing?

Is the project going to complete itself? 

Or, are you just taking a break hoping things will do themselves?

These breaks or lack of action are our worst enemies because it is here when we tend to become complacent and start to procrastinate neglecting our future and what is important to us.

Remember the 4 questions to ponder on from yesterday?

Why not add what are you doing? Too? 

Till next time,

Jorge 

4 Questions To Ponder On…

Last Sunday and Monday I was driving from my city, Southampton to Weybridge and Weybridge to Eastbourne and finally Eastbourne to Southampton. 

It may sound like a lot of driving but it wasn’t.  

Since being self-employed I have become very time savvy and conscious, I have learned that time is the only resource we will never ever get back.

So, whenever I am driving, walking, moving, doing chores or at the gym I am either reading or listening to something that will help me be better at what I do and as a person. 

I was listening to Jim Rohn’s (he is just amazing) Challenge to Succeed. 

These recordings capture his philosophies and incredible wisdom.

Toward the end of 4 cds audios he said I will leave you with 4 questions to ponder on:

  1. Why? He says this is the most powerful questions we can ever ask. Why… children ask it all the time.
  2. Why not? Great question,isn’t it? Why not do it now? Why not now? Why not take action? Why not do something about it? Asking why not is a powerful way to get us into action.
  3. Why not me? As a teenager I used to ask the question why me? I would put and present myself as a victim, whereas this question why not me? Gives us power and the opportunity to get going… if he/she can, why not me? Great application of this question.
  4. Why not now? Is there more to add to this question? Why not now instead of tomorrow? It is really easy to postpone things and invest our time, money and efforts on things that aren’t as important. 

As I was driving back home I felt totally inspired by these questions. 

Often we see the why question as unimportant or unnecessary when in reality it shines new light into the situations we are presented with.

Remember ask yourself the following questions at all times:

  • Why,
  • Why not,
  • Why not me,
  • Why not now.

Don’t let their simplicity fool you. 

Till next time,

Jorge 

What is love?

Today I want to give you a poem, a blessing from me.

Happy Valentine’s.


What is love?


What is love?
But a kiss, a caress,
One I love you,
One I need you.
What is love?
But an expression of who you are,
And extension of your being,
One action,
One thought.

What is love?
But a whisper, a smile,
One memory,
One second of intimacy.
What is love?
But feelings, emotions,
One heartbeat,
One breath taken and returned.

What is love?
But what I feel for you,
One unheard voice,
One unfelt touch.
What is love?
But the universe at your feet,
One world,
One heart.

What is love?
But me and you,
One part of you,
One part of me.
What is love?
But what we feel together,
Your heart,
My heart,
Dancing together at unison,
Making magic possible,
Discovering the impossible,
Exploring what’s possible.
Love is all there is,
Love is all we need,
Love is you,
Love is me!

What is love?
Who cares?
Noone fully gets it,
Noone fully understands it
What is love?
But all there is,
All we need,
All we should ever need.

Jorge Vence

I hope you have enjoyed and please share this love.

Till next time,

Jorge 

What is dangerous?

As I have recently shared in the last few days I have been paying full attention to what is being said on TV, by people, what I read, everything in general.

I was watching a couple of movies at the weekend and in one of these movies one of the characters said the following  (I believe it was in Hidden Figures):

Dangerous is: inaction and indecision…!!!

At that moment I wanted to get my journal out and jot down such incredible quote (I used all the mind techniques to not forget it though!).

Hearing this quote was so relevant to everything I do and life in general.

If we don’t take action we will never get anything done or get what we want in life. 

It is a sad fact that we tend to rely on luck and we forget that the best way to get “lucky” is by taking action, getting s**t done and creating that luck ourselves through the opportunities the hat we come across. 

Also, when we are indecisive and “procrastinate” to make our minds up, we end up wasting time, money and energy AND the outcome we get is the of dissatisfaction and unfulfilment. 

However, if we flip the coin and take a look at what is safe or right we get: action and decisions  (or choices).

When we take action we call the shots and we make things happen, we take full responsibility and control of the situation and ultimately the outcome.

And when we are making decisions, choosing what actions to take we commit to our goals and dreams AND we steer our money, time and energy to what is important and matters to us.

We become resourceful and unstoppable AND we become of inspiration to others.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post.

Please share with your friends. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😘

What do you want to be the first at?

I have started to pay more attention to what people say and lines (quotes) from movies and influential people. 

It is incredible what can be learned when we start focusing our attention more.

Yesterday I had a great day with my partner, we went shopping, out to the movies, for dinner and finished the night with tenpin bowling.

Although, every part of the day was sensational, my favourite part of the day was the cinema.

We watched Hidden Figures… What a movie, it is a MUST watch. 

Again, I am not spoiling the plot or storyline, just watch it.

One of the characters is in front of a judge for a hearing, as she is applying to attend lessons in an all-white  (and all male) class.

She had done her homework and researched the judge’s details. 

He had been the first to go to university, the first to become a judge, etc., etc. 

So she recited all his achievements, saying: 

You know what it is like to be the first in your family to do accomplish something.

I too want to be the first one in my family to go to university and become an engineer, I want to be the first black (this movie was based on the 60’s during the segregation between whites and blacks).

Wouldn’t you too like to be the first to let a black woman go to an all-white school?

What a bold statement to make:

What would you like to be the first in? Or, what would you like to be the first at?

This movie was about vision and conviction and it got me thinking. 

What do I want to be the first in/at?

I have been the first in my family at some things, to move abroad, to really follow my dreams, to start my own business, to write and publish books, etc. 

Though, I do not want to stagnate and be left behind. What can I be the first in/at next?

What hasn’t been done yet?

Please note it isn’t to appear better or superior but to challenge myself and continue to grow.

What would you like to be the first in?

I would love to hear. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😎💋❤

What is your favourite thing about Earth?

Yesterday I went to the movies with my partner and we watched – The Space Between Us.

This is a beautiful movie, so if you haven’t been to watch it yet, highly recommend it.

I won’t tell you much about the movie, don’t want to spoil it for you…

The main character, Gardner, asks several people this question:

What is your favourite thing about Earth?

What a powerful question, I thought and I kept wondering what is my favourite thing about Earth.

I don’t have a single favourite thing about Earth, though I have many.

These are my favourite things about Earth:

  1. Knowledge and wisdom, we are blessed that for millenia we have been able to capture valuable information about our planet and us as a race and these data will be passed to generations to come.
  2. Fauna and flora, I have always loved nature, we are truly blessed to have the ecosystems we have, the plants and animals and the means to learn from it.
  3. Variety, the older I get and the more I travel I feel humbled and in awe at the variety in our cultures and traditions; it is so beautiful to know that even though we are all humans we still have to much to learn from one another AND we keep enriching each others lives.
  4. Our curiosity, us human beings are so curious and we do whatever it takes to understand what is around us to improve our quality of life.
  5. Our resilience, there is no denying that we are resilient beings and it doesn’t matter what comes our way we come back stronger and more prepared for what is next.
  6. The ability to express our emotions, to me this is one of the mos beautiful things we can do on Earth, tell others what our feelings are.
  7. Life, I love witnessing and experiencing what it is like to be alive and celebrate others lives. It gives me great joy and satisfaction. 

I could go on and on, as it is a great experience to enjoy what we have, we are truly blessed to live in an era where we can be and enjoy life.

It is a true blessing knowing that we can express our thoughts and concerns and joy and share with the world what we love about our communities, societies and our planet as a whole.

I am curious:

What is your favourite thing about Earth?

See you soon,

Jorge 😙

Courage is fear that has said its prayers 

Jim Rohn once said something along the lines of:

“Why try to overthink and come up with something new when others have said and put it so eloquently for us already.”

I couldn’t agree more with that quote especially after hearing the following quote today by Joyce Meyer :

“Courage is fear that has said its prayers and decided to go forward anyway.”

Well, what can I say?

This is so perfectly put that it leaves nothing unsaid…

When we proceed with courage we are essentially acknowledging and making the decision and commitment to go ahead and do it anyway as put by Susan Jeffers:

“Feel the fear and do it anyway.”

Acting with courage besides our dears is the best favour we can do for our future selves, conquering new territories and becoming a better person each day.

Learning something new and overcoming a new challenge daily is the best way to become the person we must in order to accomplish our goals.

I would love to hear any powerful statements or quotes you have heard/read today or in the past and how it has inspired you. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😎💕💋

It is OK to have a bad day!

Yesterday was a significant day for me, in many ways. Sadly, the way I reacted and how I took this event was pretty bad.

Before I continue writing I will not tell you much on this post as it is still raw and I am processing it, so talking about it brings “stuff” to the surface. 

What I will tell you though is I already have a title for my next book 😉. 

So, I had a rubbish day yesterday. 

How rubbish you might be asking yourself?

Vodka kind of rubbish. 

I didn’t want to talk to anyone about what had happened and the only 2 people who knew about this incident I begged to not mention it.

As I was drinking my vodka and coke, I am not crazy to swig it neat (yuck!), I kept saying to myself why am reacting like this? 

You are a coach and a therapist (and a healer), a trainer and an author and you empower people and help them and blah blah blah…

Is alcohol the solution? 

Is pushing people away the solution?

Is blaming other people the right thing to do?

I started to analyse what was going through my mind at that moment  (before the vodka kicked in!).

And this is where I got to…

You are a coach and a therapist (and a healer), a trainer and an author and you empower people and help them AND…
You are human too!

I realised and totally recognised the importance of having a bad day.

I chose to divert my attention from what was happening to something else, yes I know vodka wasn’t the solution  (though there was nothing else I could do around midnight!).

I learned that having a bad day is a great opportunity to take a look at your life and reassess where you are at. 

That there are lessons in every situation and that by taking a break from it you are giving yourself the time to process the situation and take the learnings. 

When you acknowledge that it is ok to have a bad day and accept it for what it is you are at cause in your life, rather than at the effect of the “issue”.

It was so refreshing knowing I don’t have to get it right all the time, it is OK to go through all the emotions known to human kind in a few seconds and even have a cry.

I also learned I was too attached to this outcome and because it didn’t go as I had planned I was upset. 

Note to self: stay unattached and remain committed instead. 

I woke up in a different space (and and NOT hungover!) AND I wanted to talk, I wanted to tell people.

In fact, it was so healing talking to people because I learned people do care when you let them in.

I just needed to acknowledge and declare I was having a bad day and i had to take some time off.

I promise when I am ready I will share with you what happened, and when the book is published I will send you the link too 😉!

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post and realised that even people who help other people to transform their lives have bad days and go for the vodka (sometimes!). 

We are like everyone else and stuff get to us too.

So remember it is ok to have a bad day. 

Till next time,

Jorge 😘❤💋

100 Years Of Solitude

100 Years Of Solitude

For as long as I can remember I have enjoyed and totally loved reading, at first it started like a way to cope with life and avoid loneliness, it then became a passion that has helped me a great deal.

I started reading fiction or non-fiction, literature and prose; I always loved putting myself in the author’s shoes and decipher what he wanted to put across to the reader, I would get lost in those pages for hours and hours (and still do).

Later in life I switched to personal development and business, and success and every now and then I lose myself (again) in a nice fictional book.

One of the books that had a huge impact in my life was 100 years of solitude by Gabriel Garcia Marquez aka Gabo.

Why?

Before I tell you why I want to give you a bit of background.

My family (most of them, anyway) are of humble means, in fact my generation was the first generation to have had the privilege to have an education, our parents and grandparents didn’t, in fact my great grandmother (who is still alive) didn’t have any education whatsoever.

It is fair to say that education and personal growth weren’t the main priority in their lives, it was all about “survival”, getting a job (didn’t matter what it was!), having a roof over their head (and their children!) and paying the bills (and maybe have the luxury to do some nice things!); I know some of you would even say that that is the case with many people nowadays, and you’d be right!

So, that is the background of 3 generations in my family (we are 5 generations living side by side).

Oh, and before I forget I read this book in 2005 when I was already living in England.

The reason I loved this book is because it beautifully described many (if not most) people’s reality in Latin America.

What is that?

Doing the same things their parents have always done, repeating the same mistakes; in fact, there would be 3 (or more) generations living under the same roof!

In this book Gabriel talks about an imaginary community (Macondo), based on what he knew and had seen in Colombia growing up.

As I was reading the pages of this book it felt as if I was reading my family’s biography and friends families, it felt real and I had seen it with my own eyes.

The family in the book perpetuating that vicious circle and they weren’t even aware of it, it all seemed “normal”.

It was OK to live with your parents and their parents, and getting married and bringing your partner to live in your house and bringing a child to the world and keeping it in the same environment, not broadening its horizons.

I will not spoil the book giving you too much information, it simply is a must read.

So, what I learned from reading this book was that I was brave and courageous when I chose to sever my connection from that vicious circle, I wanted to see the world, I wanted to be “different” and I wanted to do things that no one has ever done in my family.

At first it wasn’t easy because I felt guilty, and now when I look back I know it was one of the best decisions I have ever made because I get to do things I love and I am starting something new.

I am making my own mistakes and learning from them, I am travelling and seeing the world, I am doing things I want to do and not things I am “expected” to do, I call the shots and I live a life powerfully and I love it.

You want to know something?

Many (if not most) of my family are still living in the same vicious circle, that’s what they have always known and otherwise is “odd” and “strange” and totally “alien” to them.

The connections and bonds we have to those lifestyles can be too strong to break sometimes and it may take many generations to break away from them.

Two things come to mind:

  1. Einstein’s definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results. And

  2. Some people believe that it takes up to seven generations to break away from a vicious circle.

Was I the “odd” one out? Was my birth the chosen one from a 7th generation and the others weren’t? who knows?

Though, I wanted to share with you about that book and how it almost felt like I was reading my family’s biography.

If you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend you do, you might even discover something from your family in there too.

Till next time,

Jorge

Confidence 

​I found this beautiful poem by Ms Moem and I thought it would be a great idea to share it.

Here you have it, Confidence. 

Confidence

Confidence isn’t something

only other people possess,

Though it’s a quiet self-assurance that

what they do will be a success.

You can fake it ‘til you make it.

Never given,

You need to take it

and create the conditions

where fear of failure

matters less.

Till next time,

Jorge 

Just keep going bravely and remain confident 

Sometimes I feel I run of ideas and this can lead to me struggling to put sentences together.

Though, today I was reminded of something beautiful and almost magical. 

I noticed how “easy” it can be to find inspiration when you allow it, when you let things unravel around you. 

As I have mentioned before I prefer to blog daily, rather than in “bulk”, as I like to capture my day and what is happening around me.

So, today I was reading a book with daily thoughts and poetry and I came across this phrase:

Just keep going bravely and remain confident.

How apt it is and it applies to all of us.

Whatever we want in life, all we have to do is to keep going bravely and with courage for this is the fuel that will propel us in the direction of our goal.

No matter how many times “things happen” to us, if we keep in mind our end goal, we can make it happen, this will only happen when we keep going. 

Also, it is a great reminder to stay and remain confident. 

When we face a challenge, rather than running away or stopping, if we stay confident in our abilities and know that it will pass, because let’s face it, it always does.

If we take the learnings and feedback and sharpen our skills, use our resources and become more resourceful, this will invariably give us the confidence to keep going.

And the more we do this, the more resilient we become and ultimately we become unstoppable. 

Wasn’t this a great reminder today?

Just keep going bravely and remain confident!
I found it very apt and helpful, it is great to be reminded that to be successful and achieve our goals we have to bear in mind these two things:

  1. Keep going, and
  2. Remain confident. 

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post and please share it and comment. 

Till next time,

Jorge 

Keeping your Energy levels up 

How on earth can we keep our Energy levels up?
I used to wonder how is it possible that some people seem to ALWAYS have all the Energy to get “stuff” done.

I used to think it was down to coffee, or too much sugar or later energy drinks.

So, I wondered for years what their secret was.

Fast forward a few years later, I finally got it.

To have tons of Energy all we have to do is to move…

That simple!

We want to wake up quicker? The answer is to get out of bed and start moving.

If what we want is to have more Energy because we have long days, dancing and jumping for a couple of minutes is a we need to produce more Energy so we can get things done.

If in doubt, give it a go.

Move, move and keep moving so you bring your Energy levels up and you what matters to you done and in time.

Laters,

Jorge 😘❤


PS
, if you know of anyone who needs more Energy in their lives just share this blog post.

Your potential is unlimited 

When we are children we know we can be and do anything. 

Then, things happen and we start to doubt ourselves, beliefs are formed and suddenly we made decisions about things, ourselves and the world.

We grow into people full of limiting beliefs and uncertain about it all.

  • We don’t think we are good enough.
  • We feel we don’t have what it takes to do X, Y or Z. 
  • We struggle to “fit in” and even accept ourselves. 

And this list could go on and on and on.

Though, I am here to remind you that your potential is unlimited. 

You  (we) have all it takes to create the life you want, you have all the resources you need to bring magic into your life.

Just start believing and start getting the results. 

It was Napoleon Hill who put it best;

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

Till next time,

Jorge 

Can anyone really be 100% confident?

​I used to ask myself this question ALL the time, I mean none stop:

Can anyone really be 100% confident?

In ALL areas of their lives?

At ALL times?

I’d be scratching my head and almost lost sleep over it. 

I knew nothing else, lack of confidence and low self-esteem  is all I knew.

So, I just wondered and never asked anyone. 

I carried on with my life and met wonderful people AND I got to work on my personal development, and towards the life I wanted. 

Next thing I was confident and I totally forgot about that question I once asked myself time and time again.

Until people started asking the same question to me… They were even more confident than I was by asking that question.

So, I got thinking and observing.

And here are my findings:

  1. People are always facing challenges, therefore their confidence is affected by it and at the same time just because they don’t show it, it doesn’t mean it isn’t there.
  2. People are confident in some areas of their lives and not confident in others. 
  3. Some people face their “challenges” head on and feel the fear and do it anyway, so they develop that muscle and next time when they face similar situations they know what to do. And,
  4. Growing in confidence is an ongoing journey, it really never ends.

Just because you don’t feel or see yourself as a confident person it doesn’t mean you aren’t in some areas.

I have met really shy people who aren’t “as confident as” me, though in front of others they do come across as confident, brave, courageous and bold.

What you see in yourself isn’t what others see in you. 

Typical example would be parents with “no” confidence, to their children they are heroes and they can do anything. 

To many of us some friends, bosses or teachers come across as confident, though behind closed doors don’t know their “reality”.

So, to answer that question, the answer is a big fat and emphatic NO.

NOONE is really confident at all times. 

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post. 

Liked it? Why not share with your friends.

Till next time,

Jorge

How NOT to worry!

We have grown to become too “familiar” with worry and stress.

Although, they both deserve the same level of attention, today I want to talk about worry.

When I was 16/17 I was very fortunate to meet Jorge, my namesake, we meet in our group therapy and he took at shine to me. 

In those days I didn’t feel worthy of having a Lawyer as a friend, in fact, I didn’t feel I deserved any friends.

Anyway, so Jorge would chat to me after our therapies and often would give me a lift.

Jorge was 12 years older than me (still is, BTW), and he was very wise for his years.

He knew I had attempted suicide so he felt compelled to support me and be my guide, for he had had a tough period too when he was a teenager and in his early 20’s.

I wish I could lie but in those days I was a tad negative, who am I kidding? I was very negative, I didn’t know much about appreciation or gratitude!!!

However, Jorge would never criticise or judge my views.

So, one day I was being the “typical” teenager, complaining and whinging about everything!

So, Jorge said to me:

Jorge why are you constantly preoccupied?

Did you know that preoccupied really means to occupy yourself before its time?

Everytime you preoccupy you are wasting your time and energy AND you are busying yourself unnecessarily and before its due. 

Those words were what I needed to hear. 

From that moment on I preoccupied less and let worry out of my life.

So, how NOT to worry?

Stop preoccupying yourself and rather than busying your mind  (with things that may not even happen) and start enjoying what you have in your life.

Worrying or preoccupying is tiring and consuming, it leads nowhere and it can cost you EVERYTHING. 

It is almost like living into a negative future that you are putting there. 

It’s like using the Law of Attraction to your disadvantage and drawing negative things into your life. 

What about thinking of great and empowering things and attract a future you love.

It is possible, I learned to do it and so can you. 

Till next time,

Jorge 

3 Tips To Help You Feel More Confident – Infographic Download

3 Tips To Help You Feel More Confident – Infographic Download

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I know how surreal it is to believe that one day you can stop lacking in confidence.

I have been there and if anyone EVER told me that one day I would be confident and enjoy its rewards I would have laughed and continued feeling the way used to feel.

Feeling lonely, feeling sad, feeling empty, I, too, was there. In fact, I never thought I’d stop having that empty feeling in my heart.

Wherever you are, just know there is, ALWAYS, hope and a way out.

Though, I have been there and done, I know how “challenging” it is to see other ways and even believe that that is even possible.

So, today, I want to share 3 tips that will help you to feel more confident.

Are you ready?

3 tips to help you feel more confident:

  1. Know that it will soon be over: when you know that whatever is going in your life will only be there for a short while and that great things will be coming your way.

As I said I have been there and I know what it is like to feel like you will never ever be confident. Though, when is started feeling that it would soon be over, it did and 9 months after (after committing suicide and failing!), I someone who loved me for me and 2 years after meeting him I was living in a different country, my whole transformed!!!

  1. Know that you are stronger than you think: this was a pivotal moment in me gaining confidence because I knew there was a strength in me that I had yet to tap into and that drove to want to experience it and have it, I learned valuable lessons about myself and how I was in control of my thoughts and therefore my life.
  1. Know that other people are going through the same as you: one day I had the thought, what if other people feel the same way? What if they even feel worse than me? And guess what? I started to notice what was happening around me, in other peoples’ lives. So, I made the choice to help them and empower them and that helped me a great deal, simply knowing I was helping another person.

I invite you put into practice these 3 simples tips and start feeling the benefits right away, growing in confidence isn’t “difficult”, it isn’t brain surgery; it requires belief and action.

Believe that you can be confident and take the actions required to be that confident person.

If you want to read more about confidence by all means go onto www.dragonrising.com and order a copy of my book Growing Confident, where I share my journey to become a confident man what I did.

Also, share your comments in the comments box when you start seeing the results in your life.

With all my love,

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Jorge

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PS, if you’d like to find out about Confidence & Success Coaching feel free to download the free Infographic with all you need to know.

Excuses and Reasons

Are you like most people coming up with excuses and reasons as to why you can’t do X or Y?

Do circumstances appear challenging giving you ‘real’ reasons to not do something?

Is time, money, energy, relationships getting in the way of you accomplishing your goal?

The truth is excuses and reasons are just that things we come up with to avoid responsibility. 

When we are fully committed to our goals and lives we come up with solutions rather reasons to not do something. 

For example if said to you give me a reason why you couldn’t do your work around the following:

  1. Money
  2. Time 
  3. Health
  4. Skills
  5. Children 
  6. Location 
  7. Beliefs 
  8. Values
  9. Your age, etc.

If you were given the time you’d find reasons based on my suggestions. 

What does that say???

Reasons are:

  1. Easy to come up with, and
  2. We let forces outside of us influence our results 

What reasons and excuses are you coming up with?

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post. 

Till next time,

Jorge 

How can I be of real contribution to others?

I have always believed that we are here on this planet for a reason. 

What’s that reason?

To be of service to others and love them for who they are.

So, how can you tap into what is important to others and help them?

Well, this is very simple and possible through the power of your intention, curiosity and asking powerful questions. 

What you get to discover is what is really important to that person, what is happening in their lives and how you can best contribute to them.

You accomplish by tailoring your help, assistance based on your findings and make the person feel valued, respected and appreciated. 

This doesn’t take ages, or tons of practice; all it takes is your willingness and true desire to does what’s best for them.

I invite you to practice this into your daily conversations and start noticing what you learn from your new interactions. 

Till next time,

Jorge 

The Serenity Prayer

The Serenity Prayer

When I was a teenager I had the privilege to learn The Serenity Prayer which gave me a whole different perspective about situations and life in general.

So, if you have not yet read this prayer it is my privilege to introduce you to it.

Enjoy,

The Serenity Prayer 

God grant me the serenity 
To accept the things I cannot change; 
Courage to change the things I can; 
And wisdom to know the difference. 

Living one day at a time; 
Enjoying one moment at a time; 
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; 
Taking, as He did, this sinful world 
As it is, not as I would have it; 
Trusting that He will make all things right 
If I surrender to His Will; 
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life 
And supremely happy with Him 
Forever and ever in the next. 

Amen.


(prayer attributed to Reinhold Neibuhr, 1892-1971)

Jorge 

Opportunity

Often in life there are people who can express what we want to say more succinctly and why not use them as a resource?

Enjoy this poem by Burton Braley, where he shares hope and shines a new light into life.

Opportunity

By Burton Braley



With doubt and dismay you are smitten

You think there’s no chance for you, son?

Why, the best books haven’t been written

The best race hasn’t been run,

The best score hasn’t been made yet,

The best song hasn’t been sung,

The best tune hasn’t been played yet,

Cheer up, for the world is young!
No chance? Why the world is just eager

For things that you ought to create

Its store of true wealth is still meagre

Its needs are incessant and great,

It yearns for more power and beauty

More laughter and love and romance,

More loyalty, labor and duty,

No chance–why there’s nothing but chance!
For the best verse hasn’t been rhymed yet,

The best house hasn’t been planned,

The highest peak hasn’t been climbed yet,

The mightiest rivers aren’t spanned,

Don’t worry and fret, faint hearted,

The chances have just begun,

For the Best jobs haven’t been started,

The Best work hasn’t been done.

I hope you have enjoyed this beautiful poem,

Jorge

Are you living your own life or someone else’s? 

Are you living your own life or someone else’s? 

Hello there, how are you? Had a good day? Or having a good day so far?

My day is coming to an end and it feels quite unreal to know that I get to do what I love.

What do I mean by what I love?

• I get to see clients who want confidence for the first time in their lives or grow even more confident.

• I have the pleasure to work with people who choose to make a difference in their lives, their families and the planet.

• I have the honour to transfer the skills I have learned over the years to those who want to learn them and boy, is it fun or what?

• I work because I choose to, not because someone makes me or because I have to…

When I noticed this I felt rather emotional to be honest.

I said to myself:

Who would have thought that one day that small child from Panama would get to do something so significant and life-enhancing as well as transformational?

I am the first one to admit it and I say it out loud: how on earth did I end up where I am today?

Really, how did that happen? When did it happen?

I even pinch myself (for real) till it hurts so much that I know it isn’t a dream.

At some point it felt all the odds were against me, my nationality, my sexual preferences, my social background, my age, my location; I never knew of anyone who had done anything “extraordinary” with their lives!

In those days extraordinary was to not be robbed, to have enough money to survive till the end of the month, to go somewhere that wasn’t your grandparents house, you get the idea.

I grew up believing and thinking that that was it.

I was doomed…

So, going back to the now, where I know extraordinary is what we all deserve and we can all achieve when we put our minds to it.

Now, going back to the original question:

Are you living your own life or someone else’s?

Perhaps you are wondering why would I even ask such question?

I dare say a part of you is already arguing that of course you are living your own life, that you have created and built everything you own.

Though, I want to ask you:

Are you really?

This is what I have learned over the years and the real reason as to why I am asking that seemingly “absurd” question.

I learned that the reason I felt I was doomed is because I grew up living my parents reality and modelling their lives.

Their “struggles” had been my reality, in fact, it was all I knew. Their language was my language, their beliefs and values were inherited from them.

The impact from those beliefs and values was so big that even today, I had to remind myself that I get to create and build the life I desire, not the unwanted beliefs and values from the past.

I leaned that if I hadn’t “accidentally” come across personal development my life would be very different today.

I know if I hadn’t met some extremely special mentors that my life wouldn’t be what now is.

At this moment I want to take the opportunity to mention one of these sensational human beings.

I was privileged to learn Latin-American Literature from my teacher Mrs Matute, this woman made me fall in love with my mother tongue, Spanish; I also felt in love with poetry and prose and from that moment I dreamed of one day writing (sci-fi), and letting my imagination soar and impact millions of people.

Mrs Matute, sadly, passed away a few years ago; though, her legacy, what she created for me and those who also had the honour to be taught by her will forever be remembered.

It was through the positive and empowering influences I was exposed to, I learned to dream big.

Some of my teachers,-mentors would say:

Son, do NOT make the same mistakes I have made!!!

Go out there and be better, be more than I have.

Now, I see that that enabled me to create a vision I didn’t have or was exposed to when I was a child and this also allowed me to give myself permission to go after my dreams.

I got to work and let go of living my parents lives and started to create my own life, a life I felt empowered to call MY life and a life that I loved.

Guess what?

When you live a life you love everything else seems to fall into place “as if” by “magic”!!!

I have great family and friends, an amazing partner (I also pinch myself cos he is AMAZING!!!), I do what I love and it feels good, I have let go of my past and healed old wounds.

Life is good (someone would say); though, it has taken a bit of work and tons of belief.

Let me ask you again:

Are you living your own life or someone else’s? Your parents? Grandparents, perhaps? Teachers? Media?

Think about it.

I would love to hear your comments.

Till next time,
Jorge

How to create from nothing?

How to create from nothing?

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Intriguing title, don’t you think?

You might be wondering what I mean by creating from nothing, right?

Just imagine you are a builder, you have what at first appears to be an empty plot of land and you are assigned the task to build a house in that space of nothing.

The idea of starting with nothing and somehow ending up with something after some work could seem almost impossible for some, terrifying for others and some, well, wouldn’t even start!

Though, the reality is that you get many more choices when you start with nothing or from nothing.

When you have nothing, what that really means is you can have anything, you get to call the shots, you get to choose what is built.

You can build the house as big as your imagination allows you to, you can use whatever materials you want to use, you can be as creative as your heart desires.

Starting with nothing gives you a clean canvas in which you get to decide what goes on it, you choose the paints you want to use, you get to choose the brushes you want to use and you also get to choose how long it will take to complete the masterpiece.

If you are struggling to grasp that concept it is ok, I am going to give you an even easier to get analogy:

We start with nothing, as nothing!

Get it?

We are all born the same, naked, vulnerable and with nothing.

It is with time we get to create the life we desire, we choose what we do or don’t do with our lives. When we are adults or even before then, we choose our friends, partners, schools, jobs, etc.

What we get, always start from nothing, with nothing.

We start with nothing and we then choose to have something.

That something could be anything we wish; though, it is our circumstances and past experiences that steer us in the direction of the things we get in life.

So, in a nutshell, you get to choose what happens next in your life.

You are the artist who gets to paint the blank canvas, you are the author of your life who gets to write on the empty page.

You start with nothing and therefore have the potential to have EVERYTHING.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s post.

Till next time,

 

Jorge

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Aligning Your Thoughts With What You Want

Aligning your thoughts with what you want

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I remember many years ago when I heard of The Secret for the very first time, I was extremely excited, I could not believe we had finally found that missing bit of information that would enables to have the lives we always wanted AND most importantly effortlessly…

The reality is, it was too simple!

It was just too easy and always hard to believe that we could have anything, just by the power of our thoughts and The Law of Attraction.

So, I guess this concept put some people off (I was more cynical than put off by it – if I am being honest), and some interest was lost.

Saying this, I want to share with you how I have learned to interpret the message in The Secret and The Law of Attraction.

When we want something in life, be it a car, or a new partner, or to get that promotion at work; regardless of what it is, it ALL start as a thought, a single thought.

This thought gives birth to an idea of what life can be life when (see how I am saying when not IF!), we get that car, or meet our new partner, or get that promotion; this idea when decorated with all the different possibilities and what it will do for us is what we call a Vision.

In very simple words:

A Vision is seeing things the way they can be, not the way they are.

So, we have a thought which then becomes a vision and then what?

This is when The Law of Attraction comes in… this is the moment when we align our thoughts with that vision, we write it down as a goal or well-formed outcome that will inspire us, we get creative and make ourselves a nice vision board of what our lives will look like when we get what we want, we visualise ourselves being there, doing those things and enjoying the rewards.

However, it isn’t that easy, we have to do a few things that will help us materialise this goal or vision, these are:

  1. Action: a goal without action is just a dream, and dreams do not come true if we don’t do a single thing to make them happen… So, get to work if you want that vision to become a reality.
  2. Have a why: a why is the reason we do what we do, is why we get up at ridiculous o’clock to do what it takes to make that vision a reality.
  3. Remind ourselves of our goal/vision: if you aren’t familiar with visualisation, affirmations, goal setting or vision boards, I would encourage you to find out more, these tools help to remind us of what it is we want and why we are doing it. So, why do we need reminding? This internal repetition of our goal/vision is what will help us find the how, which is the strategy that will get us there, the more we think about our goal, the more we will be working in ways to make it a reality. And,
  4. Empowering habits: there always is a reason why we haven’t that what we want… let me explain this, if we had a way to get that car, partner or job we wouldn’t even bother thinking about it. However, the main reason we don’t have those things is because we do not have the skills or strategies to get them, so developing empowering habits is fundamental to ensure we accomplish our goals.

The truth is, there is no secret to The Secret, if there was a secret it would be:

Do what you know you have to do to create the results you want.

Rome wasn’t built in one day, it took years, decades to become the empire it did.

Can you imagine it Rome was built in one day? Surely, they wouldn’t have become the empire they did if they hadn’t built the solid foundations to support and guard their people.

The same applies to our goals, they become a reality once we have built the foundations in which they can materialise.

I hope you have enjoyed today’s read.

With all my love,

 

Jorge

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7 quotes by Tony Robbins to open our minds

For years I have admired Tony and his incredible work and passion for what he does. 

I have been privileged to watch him live once and will be watching him live twice more this year. 

These are some of his quotes that I find helpful and mind openers. 

I hope you can enjoy them too.

Have a fantastic day,
Jorge 

3 things to remember this weekend

The more I learn and share with people, the more I realise that brevity is way more effective than essays and mountains of information. 

So, here we go, 3 things to remember this weekend:

1. The actions we take today will not mean much tomorrow or to help day after, they will be apparent in years to come. The daily actions we take or don’t take are what shape our future, by the compound effect. 

2. What people say or comment on will not matter in weeks, months or even years to come, so why should we waste our thoughts and concerns on what people may say.

3. You get to choose who you become. Noone whatsoever chooses or gets to decide who you become, it is up to you only.

Remember these 3 thins this weekend and make every second count. 

Regards,

Jorge 

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Is there a road map to success?

I used to ask myself this question time and time again:

Is there a road map to success?

What can I do to be successful like X, Y or Z?

Truth be told, it turns out that there is a road map to success.

I have heard the following quote from many top coaches and really successful people:

“Success leaves clues”

What are the clues left by success and successful people?

There are two of these clues that come to mind:

  1. Empowering and positive habits. Some of the habits we can adopt are getting up earlier, exercising more and more often, eating healthier, planning our day ahead, being intentional about the day ahead and doing something meaningful each day.
  2. Goal setting; having goals that represent our vision and breaking them down is a great way to ensure they are accomplished. Also having a clarity in the how, what, when, where and who for the goal.

If we implemented these two success clues there isn’t any reason why we couldn’t accomplish whatever we set our minds too.

Although I have said it before, I am going to type it again, the best and most effective way to ensure we meet our goals is by educating ourselves and learning from people who have done it before us  (they have left clues for us). 

Give it a go and see the results for yourself. 

Take care,

Jorge 

How to have the best year yet?

How to have the best year yet?

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Have you ever asked yourself:

What do I have to do to have the best year I’ve ever had?

Or,

What can I do to be better than last year?

If you are like me, I am sure you may have asked yourself this countless times.

So, how do we have the best year yet?

The answer is very simple:

Say no to your excuses.

Say no to what you’d normally say yes to.

Be the person who says no…

  • Be the person who says no to distractions,
  • Be the person who says no to tv,
  • Be the person who says no to alcohol,
  • Be the person who says no to procrastination.

When you start saying no it may seem uncomfortable at first, and as soon as you start seeing the results in your life it will start to become easier and easier.

What do you have to do to have the best year yet?

What is it you want?

We all know what we have to do to get from A to B, we just don’t do it. The secret here is to go above and beyond our excuses and say: I know I don’t want to do this and I am doing it anyway.

I know this is tedious and I am doing it anyway.

I want to spend some time doing nothing and I am going to get on with my work, my studies, work towards my goals, anyway.

In brief, what we have to do to have the best year yet is to do the complete opposite to what we have always done, do more of the things that have to be done, do what we know have to be done to get the results we want.

Achieving success and accomplishing our goals aren’t exclusive to “the chosen” ones, this is available to everyone, especially the ones who put in the hard work.

Do you want to have the best year yet?

Just work, work and work towards it and in the end you will reap the rewards.

Have a great day,

 

Jorge

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How are you feeding your mind in 2017?

How are you feeding your mind in 2017?

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Hello there, I trust you are having a great day so far and that 2017 is treating you well so far (it is only day 2!).

I would like to thank you for your beautiful comments in yesterday’s post, truth be told I wanted to make people think about the year ahead and how they can ensure they have the bestest year yet.

So, today is no different.

I am sure those of you who are Entrepreneurs and/or in the Personal Development field are familiar with the saying:

“Learners are Earners”

I could not agree more with that statement.

I am very fortunate that when I was growing up I had the best Spanish and Literature professors, they taught me so much and made me fall in love with my language and reading; so the day I don’t have my hands all over a book, the day I do not caress the pages in a hardback (or paperback), I feel I am missing out.

My personal library has thousands of books that I have devoured over the years (in England alone), and it just continues to grow.

Over the festive period I read like there was no tomorrow, I wanted to enrich my mind and my being. Sadly, I ran out of books to read (yes, I was upset!!!).

Yesterday, New Year, the very first day of the year I had nothing to enrich my life, my mind and me being. So, I had this thought:

Wouldn’t it be a good idea if from now on, before the year ends I get myself 12 books – one for every month of the year –, for the year ahead?

Do you remember, me talking about my wheel of life and goal setting? One thing I just realised is that by buying books that are in alignment with our goals is a great way to ensure we achieve them!

I invite you to take a look at your goals and do some research on what books and authors could help you achieve them.

I am a great believer that in order to achieve something, we must study it first and get our hands dirty, learn and fail, fail and learn, so eventually we become the people we have to become to achieve those goals.

What are you feeding your mind with in 2017?

What books will you be reading in 2017?

Who do you have to become in 2017 to achieve your goals?

How many books are you going to read so you gain the skills to achieve your goals?

A close friend of mine says:

“I always look for a job or opportunity that challenges me and teaches me new things, because the day I am not learning I feel I start to die!

What are your goals for 2017? Feel free to share them with me, if you wish; if not, take a look at them and ask yourself these questions:

What do I have to do to achieve this goal?

Do I have to read about it?

Do I have to study it?

Be honest with yourself and find the support you need to enable you to accomplish your goals.

Remember:

  • Plants need CO2, water and nutrients from the soil,
  • Animals need food to survive and thrive,
  • Humans need Oxygen and nutrients to survive and thrive,
  • We need to exercise to remain fit and strong, and
  • Our minds need knowledge to become more creative, imaginative and thrive too.

Let me ask you one last time:

What are you feeding your mind with in 2017?

Drop me a message in the comments box and let me know what books you are reading in 2017.

One of the books I am going to be reading in 2017 is The Alchemist, by Paulo Coelho; although, I read this book almost 20 years ago, I feel drawn to read it once more.

 

Till next time,

Jorge

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Just Another Year, Or Is It?

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Before I get carried away writing today’s blog I want to take the opportunity to wish you all a prosperous, fabulous and above all love-filled 2017.

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Some people say the year gone was but a rehearsal, others even say that this year is going to be THE year, this is the time when we claim our lives back, our power and once and for all we get to be excellent.

If you are like me, I am sure you may have even said this yourself.

The sobering and scary truth is that no single year, ever is a rehearsal, once that time is gone, once those 365 days are gone, that is it.

I used to be really good at maths, and every now and then I like to use it (just in case what they say is true, use it or lose it!!!).

Ready?

In a year, we have 365 days, 52 weeks, 12 months, 8,760 hours, 525,600 minutes and 31,536,000 seconds.

We are only getting started…

So, if you live in a Western country, in average you will work 40 hours (which translates into 8 hours per day, based on a 5-day working week), you will be entitled to at least 2 weeks holidays, plus any other public holidays (which I am ignoring, as they vary from country to country!).

If you are fairly “normal” you will sleep a minimum of 6 hours per night, you will spend a couple of hours eating and getting ready, a couple of hours getting to and from work (let’s not take into account traffic and other natural phenomena), you will probably also have a couple of hours of leisure where you do your own thing (to remain sane).

For those of you who are parents, I will give you 2 hours to help your children with homework and any other things you might do with your children daily, like putting them to bed, chasing them around the house, etc.

Also, let’s add 14 hours per week for house chores, shopping, etc.

Are you with me so far?

This is what we have so far, weekly

Work: 40-Hours

Sleep: 42-Hours

Eating: 14-Hours

Moving around: 14-Hours

Leisure: 14-Hours

Children: 14-Hours

Chores: 14-Hours

If we wanted to see this daily (based on 5 days) this is what I would look like:

Work: 8-Hours

Sleep: 6-Hours

Eating: 2-Hours

Moving around: 2-Hours

Leisure: 2-Hours

Children: 2-Hours

Chores: 2-Hours

If my calculations aren’t wrong this is how much time you have left at the end of each day: 0!!!

Are you surprised?

You probably aren’t and neither am I!

You might be asking what happens with the other 2 days?

You end up with 16 hours to catch up and get on with whatever didn’t get done during your working week, which very strangely these days is: more work!

If you are not at work, you are either thinking of work, that you might lose your job, thinking of changing jobs, maybe even starting your own business and next thing, it is time to go back to work.

Why did I do this morbid calculation I hear you say!

I wanted to illustrate why some people never ever get out of the hamster wheel of life.

It is really easy to have dreams and hopes and ideas of what the future may hold; however, if we don’t do something different to what we have always done, we will continue to get the same results, or worse still (if that was even possible!), we may even end up in a worse off position – it has been known, it is happening around us all the time.

Was 2016 a trial run for 2017?

Did you say the same about 2015? And 2014? And 2013? And the last 10 years?

What have you been doing with your time?

Did you know that for millennia we have done whatever we could to make ourselves look younger, to travel back in time, and simply put to have more time.

Time is the only resource that is not infinite to us, once a day has gone that is it, it is gone forever, it will not come back, it is part of our past and memories.

Also, let’s be honest, the only form in which it comes back to us is as regrets, the ‘what ifs., the it ‘could have beens’, and ‘the cowardly only ifs’!

What are you going to do differently this year?

Me, for starters, I have had a serious conversation with myself, I sat myself down and I asked myself the question: Jorge, what do you want in 2017? Really, for real, what do you want?

My question to you is what do you want to accomplish in 2017?

At this point, I want to highlight, I have not used the word “change” on purpose because I believe that in order to get what we want in life and achieve our goals, change isn’t what will get us there, it is by transforming and evolving what we already possess that will make the difference.

Let me explain this further…

When we are working towards a goal, it isn’t by changing or forcing change that we will get the results we desire.

On the other hand, if we look at what we have and ways in which we could move things around, shift things (and this includes our thoughts), evolve things to be more effective and efficient we will be motivated to move in the direction of our goal, rather than fighting it because it is something we don’t want to “change”.

Have you set aside some time to plan the year ahead?

For the last few years I have taken the very first day of the year to set my goals for the year ahead, I do my wheel of life and look at the areas of my life that need improving and write my goals around them.

I look at my fitness and wellbeing, my relationships, my spirituality and finances and compare them to the previous year.

Then I ask myself the following questions:

What went well?

What worked?

What didn’t work?

What can I do to make it better next year?

And this gives birth to the strategies I will use to execute these goals.

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Do you set aside some time to reflect on the year gone? To ask yourself what do I have to do to get my s – – t done?

Is there an aspect of your life that doesn’t satisfy you?

What is it?

What can you do this year to transform it?

When I look around, especially today, many people will have wasted the most important day of the year. They will be in bed (most of the day) with a sore head and “trying” to figure out what they left behind in the “old” year!

Today is the day when you set your intention for the year.

What will I achieve in January?

What will I accomplish in February (the shortest month of the year)?

What will I have got done in the first quarter of the month (end of March)?

I remember one of Tony Robbins famous quotes:

“The quality of your life depends and it’s based on the quality of the questions you ask yourself.”

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What do I want to?

Where do I want to be?

When will I have accomplished my goal by?

How can I ensure I get my s – – t done?

How much money will I have in my bank account by the end of the year?

Who do I need to speak to to help me with my dreams?

Why do I want to do this?

What questions are you asking yourself that will empower you to move forward?

Here are some other questions I will be asking myself in 2017

Is that next glass of wine going to help me move forward?

How long will I have to exercise to burn the calories in that kebab?

Will I regret it tomorrow?

What would my mother say?

What will my 90 years old self say about this?

Will I be using this in 10 years time?

Is this enriching my life in some shape or form?

Will I need this money tomorrow?

Who can I help with this?

Do I really want this?

Who am I really wanting to impress with this?

2017 doesn’t have to be the same as the previous years

I believe we all know what we have to do to fulfil our dreams and create the lives we desire.

We all know we don’t have to eat too much or drink till we lose consciousness.

We know we have to exercise, especially as we get older for mobility, flexibility and weight reasons.

We all understand the importance of education and learning. Those who are self-taught and self-educated are the ones who can vouch for it.

If what we did and tried in previous years didn’t work, is there any point in wasting our time, money and energy doing the same? Really!!!

The answer is NO!

Be smart, be savvy, do not rob yourself of the magnificent life that belongs to you.

When I was working out how many hours we have left at the end of each day I was somewhat upset.

I will tell you why I was upset because some people waste the most valuable days and years of their lives hoping that someday everything will be better, that someday that rich man or woman will show up.

They hope that someday they will win the lottery (without even buying any tickets!!!), they dream of someday waking up and realising it was all a dream.

That someday they will be slimmer, that someday they will be X or Y or Z.

Dear friends, I have got news for you…

There is NO someday!!!

Someday is a make-believe messed up idea we created to excuse ourselves. To absolve ourselves for doing nothing,,,

The time to get s – – t done is now, today, this very second.

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We go through live hoping that someday it will all be better, and then when it comes to our last breath on this planet we spend it regretting all the things we didn’t do, because the penny finally drops that there is no someday.

Do you want to wake up at some point in 2017 regretting you didn’t take action when you could have?

Do you want to end 2017 the same way you did with 2016 and 2015… and 2008… and 2000… and 1995?

Someday is TODAY.

Today is THE day.

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Today is the day when you say:

You know what I am good enough and I deserve the best in life. Let’s just wake up and grab the bull by the horns.

Do you want to have your own business?

Brilliant. What are you going to do about it?

Do you want to have a salary raise?

Excellent! How are you going to “convince” your boss you deserve it?

Do you want a new job?

Marvellous… What job is it you want?

You get the idea…

At this point I want to stress:

The quality of your life depends on the quality of the questions you ask yourself!!!

2017 isn’t a trial run. 2017 isn’t about change. 2017 isn’t about the same old.

2017 is about action. 2017 is about NOW. 2017 is about exploiting your excellence. 2017 is all about YOU.

Start asking yourself some powerful questions that will help you head in the right direction.

Have a fantastic day.

May 2017 be the best year in your life yet.

 

With all my love,

Jorge

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How do you become more confident?

When I was growing up I little or no confidence whatsoever. 

I felt and believed the whole world was against me and that it didn’t matter what I did nothing would ever change.

As a teenager I hid behind books and education and put a façade, a bravado, pretending that I was ok.

Truth be told I wasn’t ok. I had issues accepting and loving myself and I just didn’t want anyone to know about it. 

I hoped and wished that one day I would wake up and it would all be gone.

What did I do to become more confident?

I will share with you the 3 most important things I did to become more confident:

  1. I admitted to myself I had a confidence issue, I stopped lying to myself and the world and I faced to the fact I wasn’t confident.
  2. I told people about my confidence issues and got the support I needed in order to get more confident. And,
  3. I got to work on my confidence, I started doing things that challenged me and promoted growth in me and it paid off.

How long have you been lacking confidence?

How long have been held back by your lack of confidence?

Why do you want to be more confident?

What is confidence for you, anyway?

What would your life look like with more confidence?

Do you know the direct connection between confidence and success?

If you want to grow in confidence and become the person you know yourself to be get a copy of Growing Confident, 10 Simple Steps To A More Confident YouIn this book I share in more detail my journey to Growing Confident and what I did to get there.

Want more confidence get learning and working on it.

Till next time,

Jorge 

How DARE you?

Sometimes in life we have to hear those things we don’t want to hear, so here it is:

HOW DARE YOU…

  • Not share your greatness in life?
  • Not show up in your life and commitments?
  • Make excuses to not take action?
  • Blame others for your lack of action?
  • Play a “safe” and “comfortable” life?
  • Quit even before you got started?
  • Avoid taking control of your life?
  • Hold onto the and reject your future?

I can go on and on and on… and explain where and which areas you haven’t been fully present.

That isn’t the point, the point I am making here is you can change it, transform and evolve it. 

I have brought it to your conscious awareness, so now it is over to you. 

You get to choose whether you reflect on these areas or you take no action.

You get to do something and achieve something and continue in the same path, heading in the same direction you are heading. 

Taking control of your life requires taking actions right now and being the human being you have to grow into to accomplish your goals.

What are you waiting for?

Your time is now.

Till next time,

Jorge 

Time to stop, reflect and review

What have you been working on?

Are you heading in the right direction?

Whether you are employed or an entrepreneur I invite you to take a moment, stop doing what you are doing. 

Reflect on where you are right now, is it where you wanted to be? Is it close enough?

What has happened? Why haven’t you met your goals and targets?

Have you been making excuses or have you genuinely been slowed down by circumstances outside of you?

Now, review your plan.

What can you do or start doing so you start going in the right direction?

Have you been in employment and fulfilling someone else’s dreams? Or your business isn’t running the way you want it to?

Start afresh, write a list of actions you can take this very second and commit to them.

Start heading in the direction of your dreams and make them come true.

All it takes is time to stop doing what you are doing to reflect on what you have done and review what you have done and what you can start doing today.

Hope you have enjoyed.

Till next time,

Jorge 

Are you making today count?

Every moment counts people say…

This is so true, every action we take or don’t in the moment count towards our goal or away from it.

If you are familiar with the compound effect, the daily activities we do on a daily basis compound over time resulting in the results we want, our goals and achievements. 

The opposite is too true, those things we don’t do now, today or tomorrow or the day after will take us further and further away…

Are you making this moment count?

Are you making today count?

Or,

Are you making it not count?

Think about it and carry on doing what you do or start doing what you aren’t doing.

Till next time,

Jorge 

How many people are you helping succeed?

One of the biggest lessons I learned was when I joined my network marketing company, in order to succeed in this business is by helping as many people as possible to succeed, to achieve their financial goals.

Genius, I thought. 

From that moment on I embraced that same mentality into my coaching and training businesses. 

I started to help as many people as possible to become more confident and succeed in areas of their lives they never thought of or saw possible.

I was helping others to become practitioners of NLP, EFT and other applied psychology modalities and enabled them to see themselves as the solution to people’s existing “problems”.

So, the more people I helped to succeed the more successful I became, this new approach to my businesses changed them dramatically for the best.

How many people are you helping in your line of business or career?

Are you offering solutions to people’s problems and adding value to their lives?

It doesn’t matter what you do whether you are a barista or a lawyer or a therapist.

In each and every one of the above mentioned scenarios you are helping people wake up and get on with their day, you are helping people with the law to either defend themselves or to change a law and lastly you are helping people to improve their ways of thinking  (mindset) and ways of being  (behaviours).

Remember, in order to succeed and achieve success you ought to help people, the more people you help, the more successful you become.

Till next time, 

Jorge 

Is tomorrow guaranteed?

Yesterday I had one of the most surreal and thought provoking experiences ever!

I was walking into town, minding my own business, listening to an audio and wanting to get to my destination ASAP. 

Suddenly, I noticed a homeless guys walking past me, he looked ever so familiar, there was a sense of knowing him, I just couldn’t place him, and then…

It hit me, we used to work together in the very first kitchen, at my very first job over 9 years ago.

Then, his life seemed in the right place, he had a decent job, a wife and a daughter.

He was committed to his job, always there, going above and beyond the call of duty, he was a good colleague and I thought his life and personal situation where in order.

Sadly, I realised it was him when he was long gone and I couldn’t make him in the distance. 

Though, many questions came to my head…

I would have asked:

  • What happened?
  • When did things start to go “wrong”?
  • Did he seek for help?
  • Did he think his life would look like this after almost 10 years?
  • What about his family?
  • How long has he been in the streets?

Having witness how much a person’s life can change in such short period of time made me more committed to want to help people to remain in a healthy and stable frame of mind.

We all need help, though, it takes courage and bravery to ask for help, and the truth is that noone will judge us because what we are really saying is:

I want to be in a better position, I am committed to my life and my family and the world around me, and people applaud that. 

If you aren’t where you want to be right now, act now, before it is too late.

You never know where you’ll be in 5 or 10 years from now. 

Remember, insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. 

Want something better and different? Seek the help you need to accomplish it.

Till next time,

Jorge